Turning 30: Five Things I Learned in my 20s

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I remember once upon a time when turning 30 seemed a distant memory, not even a concern in the least. In my teens I remember talking to peers who said we were “old” now because we were graduating high school. I would tell them you’re only as old as you feel because I felt like I was 15 on a bad day (on a good day I feel 12). Most of my friends have always been older than me so I never concerned myself much with age and that it meant anything other than wisdom.

So tomorrow I’m turning 30. Today my partner says he’s planning something for me and that I need to be ready to leave for dinner at 5:30pm.

Update: David threw me a surprise party and I thought maybe it would be us, his mom and maybe my mom… But it was my family, friends and at my favorite place to eat (Saigon) and it makes me cry just thinking of how much trouble he went to… For me! I’m just in shock and tears as I write this and SO grateful to have these people in my life.

I’m just wondering.. how significant is it to turn 30? How do others feel about turning 30? Am I supposed to be preparing some big, bold change? Am I supposed to feel or act different? I don’t. I will tell you what I’ve learned by 30, though, and maybe it will help you no matter what age you are.

“You’re 30: You know stuff now. Your 20s were for ‘ducking up,’ as my auto-correct would say, and learning from those mistakes. (For instance, never again will I convince myself that sleep is for sissies and go straight from a party to the airport. You will not ‘sleep on the plane'; you’ll vomit in the security line. Go to bed.)” — Olivia Wilde

1. Don’t settle.

You’ll learn by now that settling to keep things nice now will not pay off. If you feel like your settling in your job, your relationship, your friendships, for something less than you feel is healthy and encouraging for you then you’re only delaying the pain of giving yourself what you need. Do it now, don’t wait another 30 years. If you don’t know what you want then take a few years to honestly find out what your purpose in life is.

2. Take care of yourself.

You probably stopped eating cake, dessert and chocolate for breakfast (unless it’s your birthday, ha!) with a side of a fast food lunch and little to no exercise because you’ve seen how you age when you care for yourself that way. You’ve seen how your body changes and becomes more sensitive. I can hardly even eat cheeses or most dairy products now without my body breaking out in hives and my throat closing! Our bodies become more sensitive to what is good or not-so-good as we age; to keep looking our best incorporating healthy meals and daily exercise is important. Trust me, I’m pretty petite and enjoy junk food.. but all of a sudden the combination was very apparently affecting how I felt and looked much faster than in my 20s. What I eat today affects my body much faster than it did as a younger woman. I can even tell how it affects my mood and energy quicker than that.

3. Explore yourself.

Similar to #1, find your purpose in life, what means most to you and find a way to do it. For instance one of my purposes is to inspire others to live a happier, creative life and I carry this online, in my family, in my work. Even just at home I spend a lot of my time doing crafty things with the kids, connecting with them and doing art journal projects. My spouse is a contemporary realism painter and when I am able to encourage him and give him more availability to work I am doing this. My other purpose is to LOVE love love with no reservations and this is something you can do no matter what you do for a living or where you are. You can donate to the needy, save animals from dying in shelters, so many options of things that are unrelated to your location, family, job, etc but the goal is ultimately to find your purpose and live it in every way. Start small and allow it to affect your whole life. When you’re living for your purpose you will feel it.

4. Know that personal style is ageless.

I am one of those women that doesn’t believe you have to change your style as you age. If you see me out and about you’ll think I’m a teen (until I get wrinkles I suppose) and be shocked to know I am married with children and a professional career. Does that mean I dress inappropriately for work? No. I do dye my hair pink, wear bunnies, frilly skirts and rainbows galore. I cannot stand reading articles (I saw a lot when writing this) that explain how women need to “dress their age” because that is different for everyone. If you love it and it makes you feel beautiful, wear it. If people don’t like it they probably aren’t good for your spirit.

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5. Family growth.

You always hear that around 30 your biological clock ticks louder.. Some women who didn’t ever want babies suddenly are warming up to the idea. Is this because they feel a time crunch or because they want to experience mother hood? Have a baby is a huge amount of responsibility, it’s the hardest and most rewarding job there is. Let alone having more than one. However if that is your dream you’ll probably hold that as important to you prior to turning 30. If you’re having babies because you feel like you should, don’t. Having a child requires you to be 100% in and even then it will be very hard some days. If you don’t want kids, embrace it. Don’t ever feel like you need to do something because you’re “supposed” to want to. I always wanted a child and fawned over the Cosby family.. low and behold I have 4 kids and it works for me; I’m extremely happy. I even consider having another sometimes. Would it work for you? I don’t know. I’ve met equal amounts of women who are drowning in their decision for a big family.

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I don’t care how cliche it is, I will always adore this movie and it is one of the very few chick flicks I actually own (the other one is Riding in Cars With Boys which is good too). Plus it has Mark Ruffalo in it.

Articles

Freaking Out About Turning 30? @ The Guardian
What to Own Before You Turn 30 @ Harper’s Bazaar
Why No Woman Should Ever Be Scared of Turning 30 @ She Does the City
Quotes from Celebrities on Age @ POPSUGAR
22 Books Every Woman Needs to Read @ The Frisky

Vlog: BarkBox Review by Bacon the Puppy

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Bacon and I were invited to review the Barkbox by this amazing company that provides this service, a BarkCam app for “dog selfies” and gives %10 of all money made to help dogs in need and homeless dogs find homes. So we jumped at the chance to review the box and we really enjoyed the quality of the products. Bacon’s favorites were the bully stick and the snow monster toy – he’s still in love with those!

In other news I’m sorry for being so MIA with my vlog (I missed a week!). I have had a lot of personal things going on that I’ll discuss more in the future, a huge end to something that has been going on for over 2 years. Among that are family things, house renovation, and work deadlines. But we made it through as always. I missed You(Tube) and our chats here.

In other news I turn 30 YEARS OLD on Friday so I’ll be sure to make a post about that soon. XO! Enjoy our review.

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Valentine Gifts Fit for Queens & Mermaids

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There is a lot going on around here with work load, renovations to our home and a custody battle that has been going on for over 2 years (it shall be finished soon, keep us in your hearts/prayers). However as we dive into these projects and they come to a close what better day to come along than St Valentine’s Day? Why? Hearts, glitter, flowers and other lovely things promoted as ‘gifts for her’! I love Valentine gifts and decor most of all and have always felt lucky that my birthday is the day before!

Another thing happening.. this February 13 in 2015 I will be turning THIRTY. *gasp*

Treat yourself below or, if you have a significant other, drop hints for being treated (like a link to this page). Happy heart day!

mermaid loose tea

Mermaid Tea

Calling all my mermaids ! This blend is designed for you. Make yourself an iced or hot tea with this blend of hibiscus flowers, rosehips, apples cubes, pineapple, coconut shreds and many more delicious and healthy ingredients.

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Heart Dust by Moon Juice

Opens the heart, literally and metaphysically, dilating capillaries and promoting the heart’s permeability.
Strengthens the heart’s ability to accept and release. Contains rosamirinic acid and glycine which produce love feelings in the brain that melt right into your heart.
Add one teaspoon to 8oz of any hot or cold liquid. Delicious with nut milk water or tea. Makes anywhere from 25- 50 servings depending on taste and desired level of potency. Don’t be afraid to double dose!
Wild Crafted Ingredients: Longan, Reishi, Ligusticum, Salvia, Lo Han Guo, Stevia

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Mermaid’s Kiss

Mermaid’s Kiss EDP smells of fresh ocean air, island fruits, lush native flora, and the warmth of your skin in the sun. With notes of Jamaican lime, jucy pineapple, French cypress, pink lotus, bamboo lily and bay rum. Exotic and intoxicating!

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NINA’S Marie Antoinette

Dedicate To Marie Antoinette, this very delicate tea is scented with delicious fresh apples & rose, with a touch of strongness with Black Ceylon tea basis Apple aroma done with apples coming directly from King’s Kitchen Garden – Versailles.

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Let Them Eat Cake Parfume

A touch of decadence: Sugar Cane, Coconut Milk, Vanilla Orchid & White Musk

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Iced Green Tea Bon Bon Lip Balm

Candied lemon imparts a hint of sweetness upon delicate Mountain Green Tea, a refreshing drink for the thirstiest of lips.

KUKULA tea cup

Kukula Tea Cup

Limited edition and gorgeous tea cups by KUKULA.

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Pura Vida

Each bracelet has a unique and different color combination so coming across someone with your exact bracelet will be a tough find. The hard work that goes into making each bracelet represents the dedication and respect for the beautiful land that we all live in.

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Marshmallow Home Fragrance by Laduree

“Délice” is a marshmallow perfume, a nostalgic fragrance, dedicated to childhood in the prime of youth. It’s a touching and light perfume, both indefinable and irresistible. A scent of unforgettable childhood.

Vlog: How to Make Valentine Kombucha Tea

Kombucha is one of those things you either love or hate.. and I love it. Given my own experience I can say it is a really good drink both in taste (yum!) and in the health benefits I have personally experienced. I would prefer the mango lemonade flavor (the best!) to this cherry vanilla or lime but it’s a nice change and quite seasonal!

This vlog explains/shows how to make kombucha by using a SCOBY and also how to use the fermented kombucha tea after a week to make the flavored, bottled kombucha drink you see in stores. This flavor is VALENTINE aka cherry vanilla and cherry lime. Enjoy!

How to Make Kombucha — the recipe we published originally here!

Youtube Only: Bee and PuppyCat on Cartoon Hangover

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So I’ve fallen into the Youtube rabbit hole that I so carefully walked around for so many years and it’s never ending! The amount of good content is immense even if you have to search around to find it! I’ve really enjoyed that Cartoon Hangover has released new Bee and PuppyCat episodes and they are adorable. I’ve watched them all maybe 10 times haha. The cat reminds me of Calvin, sweet, dog-like, entitled and cute as heck! I give it 5 stars and 4 paws way up!

What is Bee and PuppyCat?

According to their Kickstarter fund:
“Bee and PuppyCat” is a very popular original cartoon created by Natasha Allegri. In it, Bee, an out-of-work twenty-something, has a life-changing collision with a mysterious creature she names PuppyCat (“A cat?… or maybe a dog?”). Between space and time, Bee and PuppyCat take on an intergalactic babysitting gig to pay another month’s rent.

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